Modern Manners for the Holiday’s — Children

The holiday’s are filled with many fes­tiv­i­ties and get-togethers, which make it the per­fect time to work on man­ners.  With man­ners being a lost art in today’s soci­ety, these chil­dren do not know that good man­ners are a skill that can pro­vide an advan­tage in the busi­ness world as well as in their daily life.

We will cover the following:

Social

  • First Impressions/Body language
  • Intro­duc­tions and handshakes
  • Please, thank you and excuse me
  • Being a gra­cious host
  • Being a gra­cious guest
  • Thank you notes
  • Giv­ing & receiv­ing gifts
  • Cell phone & Social Media do’s and don’ts

Din­ing

  • Basic table set­ting vs. Semi formal 
  • Per­fect­ing Amer­i­can style of dining
  • Pos­ture at the table
  • Proper table talk
  • Menus and order­ing meals
  • Nap­kins
  • Dif­fi­cult to eat foods
  • Din­ing do’s and don’ts
 
Ses­sion con­cludes with a din­ner party where the stu­dents can prac­tice every­thing they have learned while enjoy­ing a multi course lunch. Classes are inter­ac­tive and are taught using role-playing exercises.
 
Stu­dents will receive a hand­book con­tain­ing the lessons for the course that they may keep and use to help rein­force the proper social behav­ior, self-respect and self-confidence that they will take away from the class – while hav­ing fun & mak­ing new friends.
 
Min­i­mum of 3 stu­dents needed for the event to go forward. 
 

Dates:  Wednes­day  Decem­ber 18, 2013              

Time: 1:00 – 3:30pm

Ages: 5 — 9

Loca­tion: Pri­vate Res­i­dence in Mar Vista  

Your Invest­ment: $140.00 per student

Lim­ited to 10 students

  

About the Pre­sen­ter, Jules Hirst:

 

Jules Hirst, Etiquette Expert

Eti­quette Expert Jules Hirst pres­i­dent of Eti­quette Con­sult­ing, Inc. She offers work­shops on a vari­ety of busi­ness, social and din­ing eti­quette top­ics and is a con­tribut­ing author of The Power of Civil­ity. Jules has been inter­viewed by and quoted in a vari­ety of media includ­ing NBC Nightly News, ABC World News, San Diego Tri­bune, Yahoo Shine, The Smart Show, KNX AM 1070 and Bravo T.V.. Visit her webiste @ www.juleshirst.com. Tweet her @Etiquette411 

 

Grace and Good Manners for Youth & Teens

Anto­nio Sabato Jr. Act­ing Acad­emy & Liv­ing Social Present:

Two-Hour Mod­ern Eti­quette Class for Kids & Teens

Youth & Teen Etiquette Classes & Charm SchoolTired of hear­ing “I’m bored from your youth or teen?  Pros from Anto­nio Sabato Jr. Act­ing Acad­emy have a solu­tion for you.  Enjoy a pro­gram that high­lights life inter­ac­tion skills like the Golden Rule, a proper hand­shake, din­ing skills, phone eti­quette, and more, teach­ing chil­dren to nav­i­gate the world through real-life exam­ples and inter­ac­tive exer­cises.  Classes are taught by none other than Jules Hirst, co-author of The Power of Civil­ity and founder of Eti­quette Con­sult­ing, Inc.

In this 2-hour Grace and Good Man­ners work­shop your youth & teens will learn:

Chil­dren:

Basic Eti­quette & Good Table Man­ners 1:  Children

  • Pre­sen­ta­tion Skills
  • First Impressions/Body language
  • Intro­duc­tions and handshakes
  • What is self-esteem
  • Pos­i­tive thinking
  • Man­ners and Pos­ture at the table
  • Set­ting your place at the table, the basics

Choose from 4 dates: July 22, 24, 26 & 28

Time: 1:00–3:00pm

To pur­chase your ticket visit: Liv­ing Social

Your Invest­ment: $99.00 ($300.00 value)

Loca­tion: Anto­nio Sabato Jr. Act­ing Acad­emy for Chil­dren & Young Adults, 31368 Via Col­i­nas, West­lake Vil­lage CA, 91320

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Teens:

Basic Eti­quette & Good Table Man­ners 1:  Teens

  • Pre­sen­ta­tion Skills
  • First Impressions/Body language
  • Intro­duc­tions and handshakes
  • Job/Internship inter­view
  • Pos­i­tive thinking
  • Man­ners and Pos­ture at the table
  • Set­ting your place at the table

Choose from 4 dates: July 7, 8, 10 & 12

Ages: 13–17

Time: 1:00– 3:00 pm

Your Invest­ment: $99.00 ($300.00 value)

To pur­chase your ticket visit: Liv­ing Social

Loca­tion: Anto­nio Sabato Jr. Act­ing Acad­emy for Chil­dren & Young Adults, 31368 Via Col­i­nas, West­lake Vil­lage CA, 91320

Stu­dents will receive a hand­out con­tain­ing the lessons for the course that they may keep and use to help rein­force the proper social behav­ior, self-respect and self-confidence that they will take away from the class.

Charm School for Youth & Teens… Summer 2013

Youth & Teen Etiquette Classes & Charm SchoolYou have heard it before, “Young peo­ple today have no manners!”

It doesn’t mat­ter if it’s true or not. Per­cep­tion is real­ity, and what peo­ple think is true is true for them. This means young peo­ple start out with a handicap—people expect them to be rude and boorish.

Eti­quette Con­sult­ing Inc Presents:

Charm School for Youth & Teens

Sum­mer ses­sion 2013

In this two day work­shop stu­dents will learn:

Ses­sion 1:

  • Pre­sen­ta­tion Skills
  • First Impressions/Body language
  • Intro­duc­tions and handshakes
  • Basic table set­ting vs. Semi for­mal table setting
  • Amer­i­can style of dining
  • What is self-esteem?
  • Pos­i­tive thinking

Ses­sion 2:

  • Please, thank you and excuse me
  • Being a gra­cious run­ner up
  • Tele­phone skills
  • Giv­ing & receiv­ing gifts
  • Thank you notes
  • Man­ners do travel
  • Man­ners at the table
  • Pos­ture at the table
  • Proper table talk
  • Menus and ordering meals
  • Dif­fi­cult to eat foods
  • Din­ing do’s and don’ts

Dates & Time:

Youths: Tues­day June 18, 2013 & Wednes­day June 19, 2013

Time: 5:00 – 6:30pm

Ages: 7 — 13

Your Invest­ment: $140.00 per student

To reg­is­ter your child click here

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Teens: Tues­day June 11, 2013 & Wednes­day June 12, 2013

Time: 5:00 – 6:30pm

Ages: 14–17

Your Invest­ment: $140.00 per student

To reg­is­ter your teen click here

Work­shop meets for two con­sec­u­tive days at Eti­quette Con­sult­ing Inc’s HQ in Mar Vista.  The last ses­sion con­cludes with a din­ner party where the stu­dents can prac­tice every­thing they have learned. Classes are inter­ac­tive and are taught using role-playing exercises.

Stu­dents will receive a hand­book con­tain­ing the lessons for the course that they may keep and use to help rein­force the proper social behav­ior, self-respect and self-confidence that they will take away from the class.

Charm School for Teens: Spring Break Series

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Teens Etiquette Classes

Man­ners are a lost art in today’s soci­ety because chil­dren are spend­ing more and more time in front of their tele­vi­sions and their com­put­ers and los­ing out on social inter­ac­tion. What these teens do not know is that good man­ners are a skill that can pro­vide an advan­tage in the busi­ness world as well as in their daily life.

This 3 day work­shop begins April 2, 2013

Ses­sion 1:

  • Pre­sen­ta­tion Skills
  • First Impressions/Body language
  • Intro­duc­tions and handshakes
  • Basic table set­ting vs. Semi for­mal table setting
  • Amer­i­can style of dining

Ses­sion 2:

  • What is self-esteem?
  • Pos­i­tive thinking
  • Please, thank you and excuse me
  • Being a gra­cious run­ner up
  • Tele­phone skills
  • Giv­ing & receiv­ing gifts
  • Thank you notes
  • Man­ners do travel

Ses­sion 3:

  • Man­ners at the table
  • For­mal table settings
  • Pos­ture at the table
  • Proper table talk
  • Menus and order­ing meals
  • Nap­kins
  • Dif­fi­cult to eat foods
  • Din­ing do’s and don’ts
Work­shop meets for three con­sec­u­tive days begin­ning Tues­day April 2, 2013. The last ses­sion con­cludes with a din­ner party where the stu­dents can prac­tice every­thing they have learned while enjoy­ing a light lunch. Classes are inter­ac­tive and are taught using role-playing exercises.

Stu­dents will receive a hand­book con­tain­ing the lessons for the course that they may keep and use to help rein­force the proper social behav­ior, self-respect and self-confidence that they will take away from the class – while hav­ing fun & mak­ing new friends.

Dates: Tues­day      April 2, 2013

            Wednes­day April 3, 2013

            Thurs­day    April 4, 2013

Time: 3:00 – 4:30pm

Ages: 14–17

Loca­tion: Pri­vate Res­i­dence in Mar Vista  

Your Invest­ment: $180.00 per stu­dent, $140.00 for sib­lings. To book sib­lings and receive the dis­count, send an email request­ing the dis­count. Do not pur­chase through Eventbrite.

Lim­ited to 10 students

 

About the Pre­sen­ter, Jules Hirst:

Jules Hirst, Etiquette Expert

Eti­quette Expert Jules Hirst pres­i­dent of Eti­quette Con­sult­ing, Inc. She offers work­shops on a vari­ety of busi­ness, social and din­ing eti­quette top­ics and is a con­tribut­ing author of The Power of Civil­ity. Jules has been inter­viewed by and quoted in a vari­ety of media includ­ing NBC Nightly News, ABC World News, San Diego Tri­bune, Yahoo Shine, The Smart Show, KNX AM 1070 and Bravo T.V.. Visit her webiste @ www.juleshirst.com. Tweet her @Etiquette411 

Holiday Manners for Children

1. Receiv­ing gifts you don’t like – Have a con­ver­sa­tion with your chil­dren about “good man­ners” before the hol­i­day sea­son.  You might even prac­tice with them or exam­ple, “your aunt Beth gives you a new jacket, but you were hop­ing for the newest x-box game”  remem­ber to say a sin­cere “thank you” fol­lowed by a hug and kiss

2. Writ­ing good thank you notes (how fast should you send them, what should be included, is email OK or no) – This is a per­fect time to teach your chil­dren to write thank you notes… even if they do not yet know how to write.

If chil­dren do not write; then they can draw a pic­ture of the item or the child using the item and the par­ent can assist them with writ­ing the to and from

For youth and teens:  the note should include, what they were given and how they plan on using it

3. Table man­ners at par­ties (han­dling food you don’t like, not chew­ing with your mouth open, etc.)

Hope­fully your chil­dren have the basic table man­ners.. come to the table with clean hands, using uten­sils not their hands to eat, say­ing please and thank you etc., but along with the basic skills  chil­dren and teens should also be taught:

  • Wait until every­one is served before eating
  • If there is some­thing on the plate or if they tasted some­thing they do not like.. DO NOT make a face or begin to com­plain sim­ply don’t eat it.
  • No toys, books or cell phones at the table
  • Lay­ing their nap­kin on their lap
  • Chew with your mouth closed

And par­ents the no cell phone at the din­ner table… applies to you as well.

4.  Talk­ing to rel­a­tives and fam­ily friends politely (not inter­rupt­ing, good ques­tions to ask)

Remem­ber to make eye con­tact when speak­ing to rel­a­tives. Also, keep the tech­nol­ogy in your pocket, purse, back­pack or at home.  If you are hav­ing a con­ver­sa­tion with your aunt then she should get your full attention

5. Deal­ing with mul­ti­ple hugs and kisses – When talk­ing to your kids about “good man­ners” and what is expected of them when they receive a gift they do not like, this is also a per­fect time to explain to them their rel­a­tives will be happy to see them and we should acknowl­edge them with a hug and or a kiss.  Remind kids not to make faces or roll their eyes when­ever an adult extends their arms for a hug or grandma approaches you with a kiss to the check

Remem­ber to remind your kids what the Hol­i­days are about and it is not just about gifts.  And remem­ber as the parent/adult to be a good role model.  Yes, if you expect your chil­dren to dis­play good man­ners then it first must come from you.

Minding your Halloween Manners

photo cour­tesy of makems.com

Here is an arti­cle I was quoted in on Mind­ing your Hal­loween Man­ners.  Enjoy.…

Yes, Hal­loween is all about putting on the coolest pos­si­ble cos­tume and scor­ing the great­est amount of candy. But kids shouldn’t throw out all their man­ners dur­ing the mad dash.

“Par­ents need to remind their trick-or-treaters that reg­u­lar rules of eti­quette still apply on Hal­loween,” says Jules Hirst, an eti­quette expert in Cal­i­for­nia. “Their chil­dren should always say, ‘Trick or treat,’ when the door opens and ‘thank you’ after receiv­ing their treat.”

Kids shouldn’t be entirely in “gimme candy” mode, agrees Peggy Post, co-director of the Emily Post Insti­tute in Ver­mont. “Look at peo­ple when they answer the door and say, ‘hello,’” Post advises. “Try to engage them a lit­tle bit in con­ver­sa­tion, and always say, ‘please’ and ‘thank you.’”

A few more tips from Hirst and Post:

– Tell kids not to grab for candy but to wait for the bowl to be offered. If they’re with a group, they need to be patient and wait for the bowl to be passed around.

– Kids shouldn’t take more than one or two pieces of candy unless the adult encour­ages them to take more. If a piece of candy is small, a child can ask, “May I please have more than one?” 

– Remind older kids not to push smaller chil­dren aside in their quest to get candy. They also shouldn’t be try­ing to scare young kids.

– It’s polite for kids to take what is offered even if they don’t want it. Remind them that they could always give it away, trade it or even toss it into the trash later.  

– Hal­loween will always be a bit crazy and noisy, but kids shouldn’t feel they have free rein to yell, loi­ter on other people’s prop­erty or make a mess (no throw­ing used candy wrap­pers in the streets, for example).

– Adults who don’t want trick-or-treaters com­ing to their door should keep their porch lights off, as well as other lights in front of their house. “Par­tic­i­pa­tion in Hal­loween is vol­un­tary,” Hirst says. “You don’t have to do it. That’s fine, but let peo­ple know by turn­ing your lights off. To a kid, a dark house has no candy.”

– Adults also shouldn’t hand out home­made treats or fruit, because most par­ents won’t let a child eat unwrapped items for safety rea­sons. If you don’t believe in giv­ing out candy, you can get fun items such as super balls, glo-sticks and stick­ers from a dol­lar store.

writ­ten by: Ali­son Johnson
source: my tide­wa­ters mom.com

Manners Monday: Family Meals are More than Teachable Moments

Family Day_Family Meals... Making the most of dinnerDur­ing my Bring­ing Man­ners Home work­shop, I uti­lize teach­able moments for par­ents to teach their chil­dren man­ners at home.  Dur­ing the mod­ule “Fam­ily Meals: Table Man­ners for Kids, Teens and Adults,” we cover proper uten­sil place­ment, table con­ver­sa­tion, how to prop­erly hold your uten­sils (after all, if  you, the par­ent, hold them like gar­den tools what do you think your chil­dren are going to do? ) and the dif­fer­ence between din­ing out and din­ing at home.  We also cover spend­ing time dis­cussing the events of the day.

Did you know that teens who have fre­quent fam­ily din­ners (five to seven per week) are more likely to report hav­ing excel­lent rela­tion­ships with their par­ents.  Also, teens who have excel­lent rela­tion­ships with their par­ents are less likely to use mar­i­juana, alco­hol or tobacco.

This comes from CASACo­lum­bia and The National Cen­ter on Addic­tion and Sub­stance Abuse at Colum­bia Uni­ver­sity, who in 2001 launched Fam­ily DayA Day to Eat Din­ner with Your Chil­dren.TM  It is cel­e­brated on the 4th Mon­day in Sep­tem­ber — which is today, Sep­tem­ber 24th!  This is a day to remind par­ents that fre­quent fam­ily din­ners make a difference!

Now I under­stand for most fam­i­lies it takes two incomes to sur­vive, or, if you are a sin­gle par­ent, you may not be home in time for din­ner.   That was my strug­gle.  I was a sin­gle mom for 13 years and the hard­est thing after dri­ving home in traf­fic for two hours was leav­ing my road rage and office pol­i­tics at the door and giv­ing my girls 100% of my atten­tion, but I knew what­ever time I had with them had to be qual­ity time.

Make time each week to have din­ner with your fam­ily.  Not only will your kids learn good man­ners and develop social skills that will enhance their self– con­fi­dence, but they will also be less likely to smoke, drink or use drugs.

Go to CASACo­lum­bia and take the pledge to become a STAR fam­ily. S-Spend time with my kids by hav­ing din­ner together. T –Talk to them about their friends, inter­ests and the dan­gers of drugs and alco­hol.  A — Answer their ques­tions and lis­ten to what they say.  R — Rec­og­nize that I have the power to help keep my kids sub­stance free!

Happy Fam­ily Day!!

Social Skills, Leadership & Manners Workshop for Teens

Tweens and Teens Etiquette, Social Graces & Leadership workshop

In today’s fast-paced world where many young peo­ple think social inter­ac­tion is a series of text mes­sages, eti­quette still matters–especially when it comes time to get a mean­ing­ful job that can lead to a good career!

This is much more than just “good man­ners.” They need the skills and con­fi­dence to be able to han­dle them­selves with grace and style in any sit­u­a­tion. It is social etiquette!

Man­ners are a lost art in today’s soci­ety because teens are spend­ing more and more time in front of their tele­vi­sions and their computer“font-size:s and los­ing out on social inter­ac­tion. What these teens do not know is that good man­ners are a skill that can pro­vide an advan­tage in the busi­ness world as well as in their daily life.

Social Skills — Lead­er­ship & Man­ners:

  • Pre­sen­ta­tion Skills
  • First Impressions/Appearance
  • Body lan­guage
  • Intro­duc­tions and handshakes
  • Please, Thank You and Excuse Me
  • Tele­phone skills/Techno Eti­quette
  • Thank you notes
  • Self Esteem

Din­ing Manners:

  • For­mal table settings
  • Pos­ture at the table
  • Proper table talk
  • Menus and order­ing meals
  • Nap­kins
  • Dif­fi­cult to eat foods
  • Din­ing do’s and don’ts

Stu­dents will receive a hand­book con­tain­ing the lessons for the course that they may keep and use to help rein­force the proper social behav­ior, self-respect and self-confidence that they will take away from the class – while hav­ing fun & mak­ing new friends.

Dates: Octo­ber 21, 2012
Time: 4:00 –5:30 pm
Age
: 14 –17
Loca­tion: Checa Chic Bou­tique 3004 Lin­coln Blvd Santa Mon­ica, CA 90405

Your Invest­ment:
$55.00 per student

Children’s Social Skills, Leadership & Manners Workshop

Children Etiquette classes Los Angeles Etiquette Expert Jules HIrst

You have heard it before, “Young peo­ple today have no manners!”

It doesn’t mat­ter if it’s true or not. Per­cep­tion is real­ity, and what peo­ple think is true is true for them. This means young peo­ple start out with a handicap—people expect them to be rude and boorish.

Man­ners are a lost art in today’s soci­ety because chil­dren are spend­ing more and more time in front of their tele­vi­sions and their computer“font-size:s and los­ing out on social inter­ac­tion. What these youths do not know is that good man­ners are a skill that can pro­vide an advan­tage in the busi­ness world as well as in their daily life.

Social Skills — Lead­er­ship & Man­ners:

  • Pre­sen­ta­tion Skills
  • First Impressions/Appearance
  • Body lan­guage
  • Intro­duc­tions and handshakes
  • Please, Thank You and Excuse Me
  • Tele­phone skills/Techno Eti­quette
  • Thank you notes
  • Self Esteem

Din­ing Manners:

  • For­mal table settings
  • Pos­ture at the table
  • Proper table talk
  • Menus and order­ing meals
  • Nap­kins
  • Dif­fi­cult to eat foods
  • Din­ing do’s and don’ts

Stu­dents will receive a hand­book con­tain­ing the lessons for the course that they may keep and use to help rein­force the proper social behav­ior, self-respect and self-confidence that they will take away from the class – while hav­ing fun & mak­ing new friends.

Dates: Octo­ber 21, 2012
Time: 2:00 – 3:30pm
Age
: 7–13
Loca­tion: Checa Chic Bou­tique 3004 Lin­coln Blvd Santa Mon­ica, CA 90405

Your Invest­ment:
$55.00 per student

Upcoming Events: Finishing School For the 21st Century Dining & Social Etiquette for Children

Man­ners are a lost art in today’s soci­ety because chil­dren are spend­ing more and more time in front of their tele­vi­sions and their com­put­ers and los­ing out on social inter­ac­tion. What these youths do not know is that good man­ners are a skill that can pro­vide an advan­tage in the busi­ness world as well as in their daily life.

Some of the top­ics cov­ered in social eti­quette include:

  • Pre­sen­ta­tion Skills
  • First Impressions/Appearance
  • Body lan­guage
  • Intro­duc­tions and handshakes
  • Please, Thank You and Excuse Me
  • Tele­phone skills
  • Thank you notes

Some of the top­ics cov­ered in Din­ing Eti­quette include:

  • For­mal table settings
  • Pos­ture at the table
  • Proper table talk
  • Menus and order­ing meals
  • Nap­kins
  • Dif­fi­cult to eat foods
  • Din­ing do’s and don’ts

This two week class meets every Mon­day begin­ning August 13th.  The last ses­sion will be held at a local restau­rant where the stu­dents can prac­tice every­thing they have learned while enjoy­ing a hosted lunch.  Classes are inter­ac­tive and are taught using role-playing exer­cises. Stu­dents will receive a hand­book con­tain­ing the lessons for the course that they may keep and use to help rein­force the proper social behav­ior, self-respect and self-confidence that they will take away from the class – while hav­ing fun & mak­ing new friends.

Dates: August 13, 2012
             August 20, 2012
Time: 1:00 – 2:30pm
Age
: 7–13
Loca­tion: Checa Chic Bou­tique 3004 Lin­coln Blvd Santa Mon­ica, CA 90405
Your Invest­ment: $140.00 per stu­dent, $120.00 for sib­lings must be booked at the same time.

To see our upcom­ing Din­ing and Social Eti­quette for Teens visit Din­ing & Social Eti­quette for Teens Sum­mer Course

Lim­ited to 10 students

****last class will be held at a restau­rant details will be given at the first class

About the Pre­sen­ter, Jules Hirst:

Jules Hirst, Etiquette Expert

Eti­quette Expert Jules Hirst  pres­i­dent of Eti­quette Con­sult­ing, Inc. She offers work­shops on a vari­ety of busi­ness, social and din­ing eti­quette top­ics and is a con­tribut­ing author of The Power of Civil­ity. Jules has been inter­viewed by and quoted in a vari­ety of media includ­ing NBC Nightly News, San Diego Tri­bune, Yahoo Shine, The Smart Show and Women’s Online Mag­a­zine.  Visit her webiste @ www.juleshirst.com. Tweet her @Etiquette411