Sean Diddy Combs Hires Etiquette Expert

P diddy hires etiquette expertRap Mogul P. Diddy has hired eti­quette expert Dawn Bryan to give his employ­ees at Bad Boy Records a les­son on social niceties.

Ms. Bryan report­edly taught the staff how to hold chop­sticks, present a busi­ness card in Japan, choose wine, hold a wine glass, eat caviar and how to select appro­pri­ate business gifts.

All new employes at Bad Boy Records will now be required to take an eti­quette lesson.

Tips on not being a snob in the social media world

Here is a great arti­cle I found on Roswell Patch

What To Do Social Media Etiquette

Tips on not being a snob in the social media world.

I didn’t real­ize that not every­one instinc­tively knows how to inter­act in social media until recently. Peo­ple are snub­bing poten­tial con­tacts and miss­ing their tar­get left and right because they don’t know the basics of social media eti­quette. Despite the cav­a­lier atti­tude in gen­eral towards hav­ing an online pres­ence and shar­ing every­thing with the world, there are still basic rules that must be fol­lowed if you expect to make any­thing of your social media experience.

Friend­in: Face­book has a sys­tem that acts as a buffer between you and any­one else on the web­site. If some­one wants to have full access to the pro­file pic­tures, videos and com­ments you make, they have to be accepted as a “friend” by you. Friend in the online world has come to com­bine acquain­tance, buddy, fam­ily mem­ber, class­mate and co-worker into one famil­iar term. Sure, you aren’t really “friends” with an old col­lege pro­fes­sor, but they did like you as a stu­dent and might have some con­tacts that could help you in your job hunt. What­ever you decide — to “friend” or not — you can turn down any friend request with­out the per­son see­ing your rejec­tion; so rest easy.

Fol­low­ing: At first, I didn’t like Twit­ter because it’s a lit­tle bit of work to build a fol­low­ing. Fol­low­ing allows you to see all of the tweet expressed by a cer­tain per­son. If you love a cer­tain celebrity, you’d fol­low them. Twit­ter is dif­fer­ent because you can have dif­fer­ent num­bers of fol­low­ers than peo­ple you fol­low. This is because not every­one you’re inter­ested in fol­low­ing will be as inter­ested in you. Some­times you have to fol­low oth­ers with sim­i­lar inter­ests first. How­ever, it is con­sid­ered very rude to not fol­low some­one who fol­lows you! At the very least, always send a pri­vate mes­sage thank­ing them for following you.

Com­ment­ing. If you blog, this is proof of your suc­cess. When peo­ple com­ment on some­thing you write, it sig­ni­fies that you made an impact. Updat­ing a blog reg­u­larly (once or twice a week at least ) is the best way to attract atten­tion except for writ­ing some­thing intrigu­ing to audi­ences and witty for good mea­sure.  If you have a com­pany blog and only update it once every few months, you’re not going to break any ground. It’s almost like not hav­ing one. It’s good eti­quette to respond to reader com­ments, as well. Acknowl­edge their input.

These are just a few exam­ples with the main social media titans, but the prin­ci­ples apply any­where. Social media can be a ton of fun and a great mar­ket­ing tool for busi­nesses, but it can also make you look bor­ing, snobby and non­pro­gres­sive if you don’t make an effort to inter­act. So you might want to get that nose out of the air.

Source: Roswell­Patch

Writ­ten By: Deena Spell

LA’s Prom Closet “A Dress To Remember 2011″

Table SettingThis year I had the plea­sure of once again con­duct­ing the din­ing eti­quette work­shopto about 200 young ladies at LA’s Prom Closet annual A Dress To Remem­ber event held at Cal State Dominguez Hills.

LA’s Prom Closet hosts an annual day-long gown give­away and work­shop event timed to proms tak­ing place in April, May and June. All gowns are donated, dry cleaned and hung on dis­play racks for the young women to select from. The gowns are FREE to all stu­dents.  In addi­tion to obtain­ing dresses, stu­dents par­tic­i­pate in self-esteem build­ing workshops.

A few of the work­shops the young ladies par­tic­i­pated in where:



MakeupJules Hirst giving table etiquette leson

Vision Board Creation


Din­ing Etiquette

For more infor­ma­tion on LA’s Prom Closet click here

The Power of Civility

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The Power of CivilityJust received a call from the deliv­ery com­pany, books will be deliv­ered tomor­row!!!  Thanks to all of you who already pre-ordered their book, haven’t ordered your book yet there is still time to order your book and save 20%.

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Mobile Etiquette — I am GUILTY of this. How about You?

One in five U.S. adults admits to check­ing their mobile tech­nol­ogy device even before they get out of bed in the morn­ing, as reported in a 2011 sur­vey com­mis­sioned by Intel Cor­po­ra­tion on the topic of mobile eti­quette. Do you con­sider this poor mobile etiquette?

Expressions of Sympathy

This week­end I co-ordinated a memo­r­ial ser­vice for a young child  although a cel­e­bra­tion… this was a cel­e­bra­tion of life.  It was a beau­ti­ful ser­vice, the par­ents strength was incred­i­ble. But, there were moments of akward con­ver­sa­tion which is under­stand­able since peo­ple seem to strug­gle with what to say or how to act when some­one has lost a loved one. The worse thing you can do is act like noth­ing has hap­pened. Here are a few tips to help you.

 As soon as you hear about the loss you should call or send flow­ers but, it is impor­tant to let the fam­ily know you are think­ing of them and share their sorrow.

If you call you may want to say “I’m Sorry” or “My Sym­pa­thy to you”, “he will be greatly missed”.


  • Share your own story by say­ing ” I know how you feel” or ” I remem­ber when.….” keep your expressions brief.
  • Tell them they need to be strong for the family
  • They need to stay busy


  • Be there for your friend or rel­a­tive not only dur­ing the memo­r­ial (or funeral) but, also in the future.
  • Remem­ber the deceased birthday
  • Offer your assis­tance by cook­ing, cleaning, etc.

Etiquette Daily ~ What does your handshake say about you?

You are judged by your hand­shake… an over­pow­er­ing hand­shake indi­cates dom­i­nance, con­trol, ego­tism and a weak hand­shake indi­cates: inse­cu­rity, dis­in­ter­est, secre­tive­ness, shy­ness and aloofness

What does yours say about you?


Man­ners are not only for the din­ing table.  We need to use our man­ners wher­ever we go, espe­cially while out in pub­lic.  Recently, I was amazed at how poorly peo­ple behave when they are out in public.

I was a judge at the National Amer­i­can Miss pageant.  I had never attended a pageant before but was sur­prised by audi­ence mem­bers dur­ing one of the com­pe­ti­tions.  Peo­ple in the audi­ence were con­stantly cri­tiquing each par­tic­i­pant, except the per­son they came to see — who could do no wrong.  You never know who you are sit­ting around and you could be offend­ing fam­ily mem­bers or friends of another con­tes­tant.  You should keep your opin­ions to your­self until after the show.

I attended a con­cert at the beau­ti­ful Hol­ly­wood Bowl.  It is a per­fect loca­tion for a sum­mer con­cert out­door venue, every seat has a great view and there are fan­tas­tic acoustics.  How­ever, the acoustics back­fired as there were groups of peo­ple who talked through­out the con­cert  includ­ing a cou­ple of women behind me!  I wasn’t see­ing Justin Bieber or Lady Gaga.  I was see­ing Harry Con­nick, Jr.  You would expect an older, more refined crowd that would have the man­ners to behave prop­erly.  While attend­ing an event, you should show your respect by pay­ing atten­tion to the per­for­mance, espe­cially when the audi­ence around you has spent their hard earned money to attend.  They paid to see the per­former not to lis­ten to you dis­cuss the prob­lems you’re hav­ing with your nanny.

The most egre­gious event I wit­nessed was peo­ple talk­ing or going about their busi­ness dur­ing the play­ing of our national anthem.  I noticed this twice — the first time at the Harry Con­nick, Jr. con­cert and the sec­ond at Dis­ney­land.  At each loca­tion, an announce­ment was given to please stand for the singing of the national anthem.  Peo­ple at the con­cert stood, but some con­tin­ued their con­ver­sa­tions. At Dis­ney­land, peo­ple stood but oth­ers con­tin­ued about their busi­ness  talk­ing on their cell phones or  hus­tling towards rides.  Proper eti­quette is to stand and remove your hat.  The anthem is played to honor the men and women who have served or are serv­ing in the mil­i­tary, which allows all of us to enjoy the free­doms we have.  Being quiet for a cou­ple of min­utes doesn’t seem like too much of a price to ask for these freedoms.

I don’t think peo­ple mean to be dis­re­spect­ful.  I believe peo­ple do not know any bet­ter.  They were not taught proper eti­quette while grow­ing up and it reflects in their actions.  For­tu­nately, it is never too late to learn.  Sign up for a eti­quette class today.

Who should be teaching manners?

Who should be teach­ing man­ners? Here is an arti­cle found on The Respon­si­bil­ity Project titled:  Teach­ing Man­ners: Par­ents or Teach­ers. I am sure you won’t be sur­prised to find out that some edu­ca­tors will say that they have been given to much of the parental responsibilities.

Good man­ners/eti­quette begin at home.   Our teach­ers have enough to deal with.  They should be work­ing with the par­ents not act­ing as a surrogate .

To all the par­ents who under­stand that good man­ners begin at home and instill them,  applaud you.….

I would love to hear your thoughts…

Until Next Time,

Jules Hirst

Minding your P’s & Q’s

As Par­ents we must remem­ber we set the exam­ples for our kids.  Today at din­ner it was hard for me to keep my com­ments to myself.  Although we at  In N Out not exactly 5 star din­ing, how­ever, we must still mind our man­ners.  Table to the left of us, not only was the son tex­ting at the table the mother was also on the phone hav­ing a con­ver­sa­tion and laugh­ing while the hus­band and younger son were just sit­ting there.   As a older cou­ple was walk­ing into the restau­rant a young boy ran into the  women looked at her and said “what“  are you kid­ding me, the boy ran into her.  Did his mom say any­thing… not at all.   And lastly, a group of young adults left their trash at the table.

Lately there has been much dis­cus­sion about the lack of man­ners in today’s soci­ety.  Cus­tomer Ser­vice is a joke.  More and more kids have lit­tle to no respect.  Adults dont like to fol­low rules, but, slowly Social Graces is mak­ing its way back.  Don’t just take my word for it.  Here is an arti­cle I ran across from Trend Cen­tral MIND YOUR P’S & Q’S A return to old-fashioned man­ners is brew­ing

As we head into the sum­mer sea­son and spend more time with our fam­ily and friends enjoy­ing the beau­ti­ful weather we must remem­ber our man­ners do travel with us.   Here are a few tips to keep in mind:

When enter­ing a build­ing or ele­va­tor, if there is also a per­son exit­ing he or she leaves first then you enter.
At a self serve resta­raunt, you are incharge of clean­ing up your own mess.
No talk­ing, tex­ting, or list­ing to your mes­sages at the movies
No tex­ting or talk­ing on the phone while eat­ing.Â
Par­ents don’t expect your kids to have good man­ners if you dont

Have a won­der­ful Weekend