Minding your Halloween Manners

photo cour­tesy of makems.com

Here is an arti­cle I was quoted in on Mind­ing your Hal­loween Man­ners.  Enjoy.…

Yes, Hal­loween is all about putting on the coolest pos­si­ble cos­tume and scor­ing the great­est amount of candy. But kids shouldn’t throw out all their man­ners dur­ing the mad dash.

“Par­ents need to remind their trick-or-treaters that reg­u­lar rules of eti­quette still apply on Hal­loween,” says Jules Hirst, an eti­quette expert in Cal­i­for­nia. “Their chil­dren should always say, ‘Trick or treat,’ when the door opens and ‘thank you’ after receiv­ing their treat.”

Kids shouldn’t be entirely in “gimme candy” mode, agrees Peggy Post, co-director of the Emily Post Insti­tute in Ver­mont. “Look at peo­ple when they answer the door and say, ‘hello,’” Post advises. “Try to engage them a lit­tle bit in con­ver­sa­tion, and always say, ‘please’ and ‘thank you.’”

A few more tips from Hirst and Post:

– Tell kids not to grab for candy but to wait for the bowl to be offered. If they’re with a group, they need to be patient and wait for the bowl to be passed around.

– Kids shouldn’t take more than one or two pieces of candy unless the adult encour­ages them to take more. If a piece of candy is small, a child can ask, “May I please have more than one?” 

– Remind older kids not to push smaller chil­dren aside in their quest to get candy. They also shouldn’t be try­ing to scare young kids.

– It’s polite for kids to take what is offered even if they don’t want it. Remind them that they could always give it away, trade it or even toss it into the trash later.  

– Hal­loween will always be a bit crazy and noisy, but kids shouldn’t feel they have free rein to yell, loi­ter on other people’s prop­erty or make a mess (no throw­ing used candy wrap­pers in the streets, for example).

– Adults who don’t want trick-or-treaters com­ing to their door should keep their porch lights off, as well as other lights in front of their house. “Par­tic­i­pa­tion in Hal­loween is vol­un­tary,” Hirst says. “You don’t have to do it. That’s fine, but let peo­ple know by turn­ing your lights off. To a kid, a dark house has no candy.”

– Adults also shouldn’t hand out home­made treats or fruit, because most par­ents won’t let a child eat unwrapped items for safety rea­sons. If you don’t believe in giv­ing out candy, you can get fun items such as super balls, glo-sticks and stick­ers from a dol­lar store.

writ­ten by: Ali­son Johnson
source: my tide­wa­ters mom.com