Modern Manners for the Holiday’s — Children

The holiday’s are filled with many fes­tiv­i­ties and get-togethers, which make it the per­fect time to work on man­ners.  With man­ners being a lost art in today’s soci­ety, these chil­dren do not know that good man­ners are a skill that can pro­vide an advan­tage in the busi­ness world as well as in their daily life.

We will cover the following:


  • First Impressions/Body language
  • Intro­duc­tions and handshakes
  • Please, thank you and excuse me
  • Being a gra­cious host
  • Being a gra­cious guest
  • Thank you notes
  • Giv­ing & receiv­ing gifts
  • Cell phone & Social Media do’s and don’ts


  • Basic table set­ting vs. Semi formal 
  • Per­fect­ing Amer­i­can style of dining
  • Pos­ture at the table
  • Proper table talk
  • Menus and order­ing meals
  • Nap­kins
  • Dif­fi­cult to eat foods
  • Din­ing do’s and don’ts
Ses­sion con­cludes with a din­ner party where the stu­dents can prac­tice every­thing they have learned while enjoy­ing a multi course lunch. Classes are inter­ac­tive and are taught using role-playing exercises.
Stu­dents will receive a hand­book con­tain­ing the lessons for the course that they may keep and use to help rein­force the proper social behav­ior, self-respect and self-confidence that they will take away from the class – while hav­ing fun & mak­ing new friends.
Min­i­mum of 3 stu­dents needed for the event to go forward. 

Dates:  Wednes­day  Decem­ber 18, 2013              

Time: 1:00 – 3:30pm

Ages: 5 — 9

Loca­tion: Pri­vate Res­i­dence in Mar Vista  

Your Invest­ment: $140.00 per student

Lim­ited to 10 students


About the Pre­sen­ter, Jules Hirst:


Jules Hirst, Etiquette Expert

Eti­quette Expert Jules Hirst pres­i­dent of Eti­quette Con­sult­ing, Inc. She offers work­shops on a vari­ety of busi­ness, social and din­ing eti­quette top­ics and is a con­tribut­ing author of The Power of Civil­ity. Jules has been inter­viewed by and quoted in a vari­ety of media includ­ing NBC Nightly News, ABC World News, San Diego Tri­bune, Yahoo Shine, The Smart Show, KNX AM 1070 and Bravo T.V.. Visit her webiste @ Tweet her @Etiquette411 


Office Holiday Party – A Road Map to Success

The first rule of the office holiday party is attendance is mandatory

The first rule of the office hol­i­day party is atten­dance is mandatory

.  Even if you hate the hol­i­days or hate par­ties, this is a busi­ness oppor­tu­nity that can’t be missed.  As such, you need to step out­side your nor­mal group of co-workers and talk to as many peo­ple as pos­si­ble.  Your next oppor­tu­nity for advance­ment may be right around the cor­ner and the more peo­ple who know you the bet­ter your chances.

Although you are work­ing the room for a pro­mo­tion, make sure to keep the “shop talk” to a min­i­mum.  This is your oppor­tu­nity to learn about the peo­ple you work with.  Find out what their hol­i­day plans are.  Ask about their kids.  Talk about movies, sports or travel plans.  As with any func­tion, keep away from the tra­di­tional con­ver­sa­tion no-no’s — sex, reli­gion and politics.

Finally, here are some obvi­ous tips that need to be repeated because peo­ple make these mis­takes every year.  Don’t drink too much.  Don’t flirt with your co-workers.  Dress appro­pri­ately – this is still a work func­tion.  Make sure to say hi to your boss, so that he/she knows you were there.  Also, don’t leave too early – you send the wrong sig­nal that your life is more impor­tant than spend­ing time with your co-workers.  Nobody wants to work with some­one like this.

Fol­low­ing these tips, should help you suc­cess­fully nav­i­gate your office hol­i­day party and maybe your wish for the cor­ner office will soon come true.

Personal Touch for Holiday Cards in Business

When it comes to hol­i­day cards, a per­sonal touch is always appre­ci­ated.  You want to thank your col­leagues and clients for their patron­age dur­ing the year.  The best way to do this is to put forth the per­sonal effort to show them that you do appre­ci­ate them.

As such, take the time to hand write every­thing.  Hand write a per­sonal note on the card.  Hand write the enve­lope.  Even if you hire some­one to do this for you, hand­writ­ing shows an effort that far sur­passes stick­ing a label on an enve­lope or hav­ing a card pre-printed to save you time.  These lit­tle things mat­ter and peo­ple notice them and will appre­ci­ate your extra effort.

You also should try to avoid email hol­i­day greet­ings.  Tech­nol­ogy has come a long way and some of these hol­i­day emails are quite enter­tain­ing, how­ever, after they are watched, they are deleted.  A hol­i­day card has more stay­ing power and can be a con­stant reminder of the work you do.

Finally, you want to send out your cards as early as pos­si­ble.  The end of the year is usu­ally most people’s busiest time and peo­ple leave for vaca­tion towards the end of the year.  The sooner you can get your card out the bet­ter chance you can have a last­ing impres­sion on your audience.

Holiday Manners for Children

1. Receiv­ing gifts you don’t like – Have a con­ver­sa­tion with your chil­dren about “good man­ners” before the hol­i­day sea­son.  You might even prac­tice with them or exam­ple, “your aunt Beth gives you a new jacket, but you were hop­ing for the newest x-box game”  remem­ber to say a sin­cere “thank you” fol­lowed by a hug and kiss

2. Writ­ing good thank you notes (how fast should you send them, what should be included, is email OK or no) – This is a per­fect time to teach your chil­dren to write thank you notes… even if they do not yet know how to write.

If chil­dren do not write; then they can draw a pic­ture of the item or the child using the item and the par­ent can assist them with writ­ing the to and from

For youth and teens:  the note should include, what they were given and how they plan on using it

3. Table man­ners at par­ties (han­dling food you don’t like, not chew­ing with your mouth open, etc.)

Hope­fully your chil­dren have the basic table man­ners.. come to the table with clean hands, using uten­sils not their hands to eat, say­ing please and thank you etc., but along with the basic skills  chil­dren and teens should also be taught:

  • Wait until every­one is served before eating
  • If there is some­thing on the plate or if they tasted some­thing they do not like.. DO NOT make a face or begin to com­plain sim­ply don’t eat it.
  • No toys, books or cell phones at the table
  • Lay­ing their nap­kin on their lap
  • Chew with your mouth closed

And par­ents the no cell phone at the din­ner table… applies to you as well.

4.  Talk­ing to rel­a­tives and fam­ily friends politely (not inter­rupt­ing, good ques­tions to ask)

Remem­ber to make eye con­tact when speak­ing to rel­a­tives. Also, keep the tech­nol­ogy in your pocket, purse, back­pack or at home.  If you are hav­ing a con­ver­sa­tion with your aunt then she should get your full attention

5. Deal­ing with mul­ti­ple hugs and kisses – When talk­ing to your kids about “good man­ners” and what is expected of them when they receive a gift they do not like, this is also a per­fect time to explain to them their rel­a­tives will be happy to see them and we should acknowl­edge them with a hug and or a kiss.  Remind kids not to make faces or roll their eyes when­ever an adult extends their arms for a hug or grandma approaches you with a kiss to the check

Remem­ber to remind your kids what the Hol­i­days are about and it is not just about gifts.  And remem­ber as the parent/adult to be a good role model.  Yes, if you expect your chil­dren to dis­play good man­ners then it first must come from you.